It seems like everyone has chosen their mantras, set intentions, and selected their motivational word for 2016. Yep, everyone except me. The last week of December 2015, social media was buzzing with excitement about the New Year. People were diving into their 2016 planners, putting finishing touches on their first quarter goals, setting new goals, and working their plan. Me? What was I doing you ask? I was on vacation for two weeks, spending time with family, and working to meet two writing deadlines.
What Had Happened Was….
I did my fair share of planning, but it was only in my head. And, that’s fine because most of my articles and poems are written in my brilliant mind. I’m serious. Okay, you got me.
The honest truth is this: I lost my courage. Although I planned and set goals for the New Year, I was too scared to actually write them down until late last week. I was scared to death because I thought my goals were too high and unreachable; and I was setting my self up for disappointment by writing them down. Even though I carried my new, fly 2016 planner with me every day, nothing happened. The planner just stared at me like ‘is today the big day?’
Enough Is Enough.
Sometimes when we’re unsure of a situation, we have the tendency to avoid it all together. So there you have it. I was scared. I still don’t have my entire first quarter mapped out, but I’m well on my way. I also feel much better about my lofty goals. And, I hired a fantastic business coach to help bring my projects to fruition.
A few days ago, I decided that enough was enough. I literally had to get out of my own way because I was still scared to death about my goals. To move on, I looked in the mirror and said this: “You’ll be fine. Have your moment, and keep it moving.” Surprisingly, I shed tears of self-doubt and fear. When I finished, I faced myself in the mirror again and said: “You are professional, you are genuine, you are talented, and you are courageous!”
Here’s what I think about the inner conflict I had, and allowing myself the right to feel some type of way about it:
1). So what if my goals are exceptionally high? They should be. If your goals are mediocre, you’re cheating yourself!
2). Fear is a natural response when we’re uncomfortable. And, our goals should make us very uncomfortable. Mine did.
3). Minor setbacks are temporary. Don’t treat setbacks like they’re permanent, or they may become just that. Stay flexible, willing to learn, and take the initiative to make adjustments along the way. My inner conflict was simply a minor setback, or an obstacle that tested my courage and determination. It was also an opportunity for me to be present and go with the flow. I really needed to be still for a few days in order to process what I was feeling. It’s okay to have a moment.
Without further delay, my phenomenal word for 2016 is Courageous.
Courage is Necessary to Conquer Fear.
It was courageous for me to acknowledge and conquer my fears about setting such large goals. It also took courage for me to look myself in the eye and say that everything was gonna be okay. I didn’t browbeat, degrade, or guilt trip myself because I experienced normal human feelings of doubt and fear.
Courage is Required to Make Progress.
I have to be courageous if I’m going to continue to make progress on building my brand by hosting webinars, writing more children’s books, guest posting, networking, and coming out of my comfort zone even more on social media. In addition, I have to be courageous if I’m going to defy logic with certain professional and personal decisions I make in the near future.
Courage is My Backup Plan.
Being courageous means that I have to keep putting one front in front of the other after being overlooked for projects I’m qualified to manage.
Courage is necessary because sometimes it’s all that you and I have. Our ideas, dreams and goals may actually be so huge that our friends and family may laugh us off of the planet. And, our courage is all we will have to stand tall with. Being courageous is my plan, and my backup plan!
When negative thoughts and naysayers surround us, courage will be there to give us a pep talk, so we can carry on. I’m excited to learn how I can be more courageous in my life, and live up to my phenomenal word for 2016.
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